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Whether you’re a tried-and-true kinkster or typically more into vanilla stuff but looking to inject some more flavor into your sex life, who doesn’t love losing or taking control every once in a while? Either way, finding a pair of cuffs that let you safely explore sexy power dynamics through bondage is a great way to found out your sex toy collection.
And before you get to shopping, an obligatory BDSM safety note: It’s important to always be extra attentive and mindful when playing with restraints. No matter if it’s your first time or you’re an old pro, safety should always be a priority. Comfort level for all partners involved should be prioritized, too. Make sure everything feels comfortable (especially when playing with toys for the first time!) and that you’re mindful of circulation and any pressure that might be put on different limbs.
Don’t forget about vocal consent and safe words. Negotiate what you do and don’t want to happen while one partner has the reins — even if it’s just a list of “hell yes,” “hell no” and “maybe” activities. Make sure you have a safe word (just a stop light system will do!) or a hand signal if one of you isn’t able to talk. And, most importantly, make sure you’re prepared to talk before, during and after to check-in on everyone’s feelings.
Whether you’re a dominant, submissive or like to switch in between roles, you can see the appeal of having some safe, sane and consensual power play in the bedroom. There’s a variety of sex positions to try out with restraints that any of the cuffs we’ve found below will help you execute. Take a look and see what might be the best fit for you and your partner(s) — and, from there, enjoy some safe and satisfying playtime with these sex handcuffs.
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Crave ID Cuffs
Image Credit: Crave A new release from Crave (who made the iconic Vesper vibrator necklace), these new ID cuffs are a fashionable and functional leather option for everyday and after-dark wear. You can also personalize them with something special for yourself or your partner, which is a cute personal touch to add.
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Quickie Cuffs Super-Strong Large Silicone Restraints
Image Credit: Lovehoney By far the easiest pair of cuffs for beginners, this silicone pair is quick to slide on and off without keys, velcro or any additional fuss. Don’t be fooled by the fact that you can just slip them off on your own, the best power-plays are in your own mind, after all.
Quickie Cuffs Super Strong Silicone Restraints $20 -
Liberator Talea Spreader Bar Cushion with Cuffs
Image Credit: Lovehoney As far as portable sex furniture goes, a padded spreader bar with built-in ankle and wrist cuffs is so easy to love. Great for adjusting different positions and exploring different degrees of vulnerability, this one from Liberator is also easy to clean and put away.
Liberator Black Label Talea Padded Spreader Restraint Bar with Microfiber Cuffs $128 -
Orion Cuffs
Image Credit: Unbound Bright, bold and blue (and maybe a tiny bit cartoonish), Unbound’s vegan leather cuffs are comfortable, pretty and sturdy options for any casual or D/s pair.
Unbound Orion Cuffs $39.00 on Amazon.com -
Sex Bondage BDSM Kit UTIMI Restraints
Image Credit: Amazon Under-the-bed restraints are ideal for making use of a bed discreetly without needing a whole ornate headboard situation (because that’s just not everyone’s interior design sense!) Easy to attach, detach and store away while keeping you and your partner comfortable while you play. And it’s all a pretty sweet kit for under $20.
Sex Bondage BDSM Kit UTMI Restraints $26.99 on Amazon.com -
Frisky Hands Up! Suction Cup Cuffs
Image Credit: Amazon Shower sex is a squeaky clean sexual challenge in its own right. These cuffs, complete with suction cups, let you attach them to another surface — including your shower wall. Play safely!
Frisky Hands Up! Suction Cup Cuffs $18.12 on Amazon.com -
Adult Plush Handcuffs Ankle Bracelets
Image Credit: Amazon A classic pair of furry cuffs, these plush cuffs for your wrists and ankles keep you and your partner comfortable all night long.
Adult Plush Handcuffs $7.85 -
Unbound Bangle Handcuff Bracelet
Image Credit: Unbound A revised take on their OG bangle cuffs, Unbound designed these gorgeous bangles that can also be used for light restraint play. Coming in silver and gold, these are fairly stealth and the untrained eye might miss them. But for you and your partner, it can be exciting to know you’ve got a toy on hand. A lot of sex toy jewelry can be hit or miss on the cute-factor, but these ones don’t have that problem.
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Maze Wide Cuffs
Image Credit: Bijoux Indiscrets These thick, Wonder Woman-esque cuffs can also be worn as jewelry on one wrist as well as in play. And they’re a cute and stylistic choice either way.
